Summer ZhangChinese Cultural Traditions Tied to Babies
There are two very important things, marriage and babies, without both of these your life is not considered complete. So it makes sense that pregnancy is taken very seriously in China, and traditions related to babies start with marriage. Many couples pin-up calendars with chubby-baby boys dressed in red above their bed in the hopes it will bring them luck and in the future they will have a baby boy.
The next step is pre-conception, couples who are planning on getting pregnant will start traditional strict diets to increase their chances of having a healthy baby. Some grandparents might even push specific types of food that are thought to gift the couple with a baby boy. This highlights something that is very different about babies in the west and in China. In China, babies aren’t just the couple’s business but the whole family.
Grandparents will be heavily involved in child care and decisions, if you visit any park in China it’s rare to see parents with their kids, instead, it will be grandparents. However, recently the younger generation has taken an affront to this and many new couples are choosing to keep the baby business between themselves and away from the hands of overbearing grandparents who are just trying to be helpful.
Unfortunately, when it comes to the birth itself unless if you choose to go private the undertone of Chinese hospitals is that birth is woman business. So the fathers are banned from the ward during birth and even prenatal checks, because of this many mothers in-laws’ step in to provide this support. But this support goes past the birth. Postnatal care is traditionally provided by mother in laws, who enforce strict rules for Zuò yuè’zi, which you might know as sitting the month. But what is ‘sitting the month’?
Sitting the month is basically what the name implies, a month where the mother must rest. Its traditions include not being able to shower, the mother must not encounter cold drafts, cannot hold the baby for long periods of time, and strict feeding guides. Zuò yuè’zi traditions change from province to province but it means a month where the mum is waited on like a princess to let her recover. Many of these traditions came about as in the past many women would die from infections. This was related to limited access to clean water and linens and bad hygiene.
What started out as good intentions has now had some negative effects as modern science and doctors discourage some of these practices. Instead, many couples choose to have a modern sitting the month, either in their own home by having a specialized helper who can cook, clean and help the mother with childcare or in a private institution. Some private sitting the month facilities can be even more expensive than the birth itself! But they come with lots of bonuses, doctors, pediatricians, and lactation consultants are available 24/7 should you require their help. Healthy, mouthwatering food is provided so you don’t have to worry about meals. Classes such as yoga and even massages are offered to help slowly rehabilitate the mother. These facilities allow both parents to focus on their new child without external worries, consider it a mini post-birth holiday.
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